"The biggest achievement we have is that our daughter is able to self-soothe herself to sleep. She no longer is dependent on the soother to fall or stay asleep. We are napping regularly and consistently. We are extremely happy with how much sleep she, and the rest of the household, is getting. "
Your family needs more sleep.
The night waking and endless bedtimes can't go on.
The time spent getting baby to sleep nap only to have her wake up 30 minutes later is discouraging.
The lack of sleep and the frustration around the entire process is wearing your household down.
But worse yet the feeling that you "should" know how to get your baby to sleep is unsettling.
If your current strategies are draining your energy while failing to provide the holy grail of "sleeping through the night" then..... keep reading.
... despite every schedule I try to put him on, he only naps for 30-45 minutes and at night will sleep for 2 hours then up every 45 minutes to an hour after that until 5 in the morning. We are at such a loss as to what to do. He is swaddled at night, burped, has white noise, is in a dark room, and goes to bed between 6:30-7pm every night. He can't stay asleep or get into a deep sleep. Same with napping."
... I think I've created bad sleep habits or did something wrong. My breastfeeding 11 month old who has never been the best sleeper is getting worse.. she will barely nap not even the stroller or car and wakes every 2 hrs at night crying unless I nurse her. Where did I go wrong?"
You were ready to be crowned parent of the year. Ready to be the best parent ever and attend to every need. You were never going to let your baby cry or wait for a feed and you assumed the sleep part of things would evolve naturally on it's own. But it hasn't....
You've made progress in some parts of her sleep but overall you're still feeling stuck and unsure how to respond to yet another night wake up!? She can't be hungry can she?
Those short 45 minute naps ... which barely give you time to rewarm your coffee, have her waking unsatisfied and fussy.
Those 5 am wake ups... ouch... clearly she's still tired and needs more sleep but you can only get her back down with intense ninja bouncing, or feeding from your personal buffet. A rough way to start the day.
This is NOT the way you envisioned your parenting journey.
Your inner voice is your own worst critic. Why can't I get this baby to sleep more?
Shouldn't I just "know" what to do?
Isn't this sleep thing just sort of innate... you're tired, you sleep!
Let me be the first to break the bad news to you, parenting is not innate.
Yes, the love and cuddles you feel for your little one, and how she adores you... completely innate...
But breastfeeding, getting your baby to sleep, potty training..... not always innate.
These are skills that we learn and they are skills that can be taught.
You execute your short simple bedtime routine that involves lots of cuddles and smiles. You lay your baby down in her crib calm but awake. You leave the room and watch on the monitor as she babbles and coos herself to sleep. Priceless.
You have time to yourself! You stoke up the Netflix and hit the couch with your spouse or head out with the girls.
You wake in the morning after a full night's sleep to the sound your baby cooing in her crib. You pick her up and she gives you the biggest smiles.
You've got this parenting thing... you know how to meet her needs, what to do when things don't go as planned and how to be the loving, well-rested and attached parent that you have dreamed of being.
In a Nut Shell
#1 You were hoping she would grow out of these poor sleep habits...
...But that doesn't seem to be happening, and while you might be sporadically getting a better night here or there, there's been no significant improvement and definitely no consistency in your baby's sleep.
#2 You feel that getting your baby to sleep should be natural...
The intense love you feel for your baby, the powerful instinct to protect them, the joyous cuddles and smiles - all natural and innate.
However, many parts of parenting aren't so natural or instinctual.
Breastfeeding is natural but can have a steep learning curve. At the beginning for most of us it might not feel so natural. My cracked nipples would agree with that.
How about that entire child birth process? How much time and money did you spend prepping for that? Not so instinctual.
You've already proved that getting your baby to sleep doesn't always come naturally...if it did, you wouldn't be reading this :)
And here's why:
The drive to sleep is biological, the way we sleep is learned.
#3 You've been inconsistent
One night you reached a breaking point and couldn't take it any longer so at the first night waking you implemented the trick that your neighbor told you she did with her baby.
But it didn't seem to be going well, and hearing your baby cry, not knowing where it was going was too painful to continue.
So you stopped and nursed back to sleep because it just didn't feel right.
It didn't feel right because you didn't have a road map to success.
You didn't have reasonable expectations associated with your baby's age, food source and temperament.
There is nothing like self doubt at 2 am to ruffle the most calm cool and collected parent.
It's never too late to teach your baby to sleep.
You don't have to stay "stuck" any longer.
I've taken the step by step approach that I've used coaching hundreds of babies of different ages and personalities to put together a step by step approach that creates your road map to success in my online class A to Zzzzs.
In this class you will achieve:
I used to nurse my baby back to sleep every 2 hours in the night. I think I kind of liked "meeting his needs" and "being needed'... until I was just too worn down.
I'm a Doctor of Chiropractor by training but after my life changing experience of teaching my son to sleep, I found my true passion...
Empowering parents to get their little ones to sleep.
I am a listener, a connector, a sleep detective and the creator of the online sleep class A to Zzzzs for babies 4- 24 months.
Since 2013, I've helped thousands of parents teach their little ones to sleep.
I am NOT that lady that's going to tell you that your baby is 13lbs and can therefore sleep through the night.
I am NOT that lady that's going to tell you to close the door and not return.
I am NOT that lady that's going to tell you to switch to formula to get more sleep.
I am the lady that's going to teach you parenting skills to to help your baby sleep, that will guide you through your child's ages.
"This class has been life changing. Before the class I was feeling hopeless and exhausted. I was afraid to start sleep training for fear that it was the wrong choice for my family. After after a couple weeks of my 4 month old waking up every 45 minutes, I didn't see any other option. Everything I learned in this class helped me understand Cara's needs and how to meet them in the most gentle manner. I definitely enjoy my time with my daughter more now that we're both getting more sleep. This class isn't a cookie cutter approach but rather taught me parenting skills that have guided me through the months. "
How I'll Guide You to Success
Step 1: Why Sleep is a Struggle
Step 2: Set Up For Success
Step 3: Sleep Teaching Nights and Naps
Step 4: Life After Sleep Training
The ability to put your baby down awake and listen to her babble and coo in the crib while you clean up the kitchen and get ready for your Netflix marathon is a beautiful thing. Coupled with long stretches of age appropriate sleep, you'll feel like a new person.
Understanding when your baby needs to nap is the first step in having her wake up happy and rested while you scratched items off your to do list, or had a little nap yourself. When was the last time you had a little "me" time?
A well-rested baby is a happy baby and a happy baby has happy parents. More sleep with less effort makes everyone happier and enjoying life that much more. You'll finally feel like you're nailing this parenting thing and know what to do when things don't go as planned.
By now you already know that the biggest difference between predictable, peaceful sleep vs interrupted and frustrating nights is a step by step approach that sets you up for success.
If you're a tired parent who wants the best for their baby, you need A to Zzzzs Online Sleep Class.
If you've been trying too many different approaches in a hap hazard way, you need A to Zzzzs.
If you've got nights down but naps are hit and miss, you need A to Zzzzs.
You can be loving, attached and the parent of a well-rested baby. You deserve more.
So let's stop talking about it and get to it....